I’m Nicole.
I work with intelligent, high-functioning women who are exhausted from performing identities they’ve already outgrown. The women who can hold everyone else together, but quietly feel like their own life doesn’t actually fit anymore.
If you value depth over performance, precision over platitudes, and nervous system truth over ‘good vibes only,’ you’re in the right place.
WHAT I’VE LIVED
I used to be you. The woman who could draft an email while dissociating from her own body, who called it ‘capacity’ while quietly wondering, “Is this really it?”
Corporate escapee. Former nurse. Someone who did everything "right"…built the resume, the roles, the capacity to handle it all. My calendar was full, my body was empty, and the only place I could feel anything was in fantasizing about burning it all down.
Until I realized the life I’d built required me to keep performing a version of myself that was slowly killing me. I could manage a full shift on an empty battery, answer ‘I’m good’ on autopilot, and only notice my body when it started shaking on the drive home.
The competent one. The capable one. The one who could power through anything. The one who traded her nervous system for external validation.
I hit the wall, not with a dramatic breakdown, but with a quiet realization:
This isn’t confusion. This is identity fatigue.
Answering ‘How are you?’ with ‘Busy, but good’ while feeling nothing. Saying yes because it was easier than explaining why not.
The competent mask wasn’t the problem. It was the solution I’d outgrown.
I remember thinking, ‘If this is what being successful feels like, why does it feel so numb?
WHAT I DISCOVERED
I spent over a decade mapping patterns, not to explain people, but to free them.
Gene Keys, Human Design, somatic work, NLP, hypnosis. Not as belief systems to adopt. As diagnostic tools to expose what’s running in the background.
What I found was simple, and devastating:
I watched brilliant women recite perfect self-awareness while their bodies stayed locked in the same old choreography.
Most high-achieving women aren’t broken. They’re buried under identities that once kept them safe, successful, and chosen.
The problem isn’t lack of insight. It’s loyalty to a self that no longer fits.
Insight without embodiment changes nothing. You can’t think your way out of a pattern your body is still running.
We’re not looking for a new identity to perform; we’re locating the invisible script your body keeps defaulting to.
WHAT THIS CHANGES
You stop spending all your energy maintaining a version of you that’s outdated.
Your ‘no’ costs less. Your ‘yes’ stops feeling like self-betrayal.
Work, relationships, and rest start to match your actual nervous system.”
WHAT I DO NOW
I don’t fix women. I help them dismantle what’s pretending to be them. Using your Gene Keys chart as a diagnostic, not a personality type, not a cosmic horoscope.
Together, we:
Expose the pattern.
Trace where it was installed.
Interrupt it where it actually lives—in your body, choices, and relationships.
So your ‘no’ stops costing you so much, and your ‘yes’ stops feeling like self-betrayal.
This is identity alchemy. Not self-improvement. Not motivational theater. Not a better performance of your old character.
I work where patterns actually live:
Below willpower. Below intention. Below insight.
The result isn’t a "healed" woman. It’s a woman whose decisions, energy, and relationships finally organize around her, not the mask that used to keep her safe.
WHY THIS WORK MATTERS
I’m not interested in quick fixes, high-vibe bypassing, or helping you cope better with a life that doesn’t fit.
I care about precision. Nervous system truth. Consequence over clarity.
This work is slow, deliberate, and embodied.
It only works when readiness is real.
This is for women who would rather tell the inconvenient truth than keep performing the acceptable lie.
It is not for anyone looking for a script, a label to hide behind, or a high before the next crash.
Your existential crisis isn’t a problem.
It’s intelligence.
It’s your body saying: "This identity has outlived its purpose."
I’m here to make that crisis feel like a power move.
HOW TO BEGIN
If you recognize yourself here…replaying the same day in different outfits, quietly wondering how long you can keep carrying what no longer fits…
Start with Identity Interrogation™ if you can feel something’s off but can’t name the pattern.
Apply for The Pattern Exposé™ if you already know the pattern and are ready to retire it for good.
Either way, stop waiting.
The woman you actually are is tired of performing for a life that was never built for her. You don’t have to burn your life down to stop performing in it. You just need to stop centering the mask.
Professional Grounding
My work is grounded in both lived experience and formal training.
I’m formally trained through the Ethical Coaching Collective and am a certified Gene Keys Guide. I’m also a member of the International Association of Counselors and Therapists (IACT) and the International Certification Board of Clinical Hypnotherapy (ICBCH).
Beyond credentials, I bring over a decade of personal practice — having lived inside my own Gene Keys experiment for more than ten years. I don’t guide from theory alone. I guide from sustained embodiment and direct experience.
These certifications aren’t boxes I’ve checked. They reflect my commitment to ethical, trauma-informed, and spiritually responsible work and to creating containers that are steady enough to hold depth.
A Few Things You Might Not Know
A Few Things You Might Not Know
what guides this work
FREEDOM from inherited scripts
I’m not interested in helping you succeed inside roles, expectations, or identities that were never yours to begin with. This work is about exiting scripts, not perfecting them.
CURIOSITY over certainty
“I don’t know” isn’t a failure state in this work. It’s a sacred pause. We don’t rush to answers that calm the mind while bypassing the truth.
COURAGE over comfort
I don’t treat fear as something to eliminate. I treat it as information. When fear shows up, we don’t cage it or bypass it. We listen for what it’s pointing towards.
Reclaimed authority.
I don’t give power to women. I help them take it back. Authority isn’t granted, validated, or earned here. It’s reclaimed from the inside out, without apology.
CREATIVe authorship of self
I don’t see you as a project to fix. You are the author, the artist, and the living work itself and this process treats your life with that level of respect.