GOT QUESTIONS?
FAQ’s
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Hold onto your soul, warrior woman—because I’m not your typical transformation guide recycling Pinterest mantras and polished clichés.
I’m a certified reality-architect with a toolkit designed to dismantle limitation and rewire liberation.
But before that?
I was a nurse.
I was a high-achieving woman in the corporate grind.
I was burned out, boxed in, and praised for my performance while silently unraveling inside.I know what it means to hold everyone else together while your own soul screams for air.
That’s why my work doesn’t start with theory—it starts with truth.
Here’s what’s in my liberation toolkit:
Hypnotherapy
Trained by a 20+ year industry veteran in the art of mind excavation.
I know how to speak to the subconscious—the part of you that actually runs the show. While you rest, I rewire what’s holding you back.NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming)
Mentored by one of the most revolutionary minds in the field.
I help you dismantle mental cages faster than you can say “holy transformation.”Gene Keys Guide
Officially trained—and deeply embodied.
I don’t just interpret the wisdom. I help you activate the sleeping genius woven into your DNA.But here’s the raw truth:
My most powerful credential?
I’ve done the work.
I’ve walked through the fire.
I’ve met my shadows, burned down what wasn’t mine, and emerged as living proof of what’s possible on the other side of “too late.”So no—I’m not here to coach you from a pedestal.
I’m here to walk beside you, torch in hand.If you’re ready to set your midlife ablaze and rise from the ashes as your fiercest, truest self—
You’ve found your fellow traveler. -
Here’s the untamed truth, explorer:
Transformation isn’t an Instagram filter.For some women, the shift is seismic—sudden, soul-rattling, and undeniable.
For others, it’s a slower unfurling—a steady reclamation of parts they forgot they buried.Your journey? It’s mapped in the sacred terrain of your own becoming.
In most cases, real, embodied change begins to take root within 3–6 months.
But trust me—you’ll feel the first tremors in our very first session.Because we’re not here to tweak surface habits.
We’re here to excavate old identities, dismantle inherited beliefs, and liberate the version of you that’s been waiting underneath it all.This isn’t about quick fixes.
It’s about becoming someone you actually recognize—maybe for the first time.So the real question is:
How soon do you want to meet her? -
Let’s cut through the fog:
I don’t measure success in spreadsheets or generic milestones.
Because real transformation isn’t about ticking boxes—it’s about reclaiming a life you actually want to live.But if you’re looking for numbers?
Roughly 98% of the women I work with experience profound shifts.Why not 100%?
Because I’m not a guru.
And sometimes, someone just isn’t ready to excavate what’s underneath the surface.
That’s okay. I meet you where you are—but I won’t drag you where you don’t want to go.Now, here’s the truth that matters more:
My track record lives in the moments women recognize themselves again after years of shrinking.
It lives in the boundaries they set, the truths they speak, and the futures they finally stop postponing.This isn’t about chasing someone else’s version of “success.”
This is about redefining it—on your terms.So the real question is:
Are you ready to reclaim what’s always been yours? -
Here’s the unfiltered truth I’ll only say once:
This isn’t weekend-inspiration fluff.
This is liberation work.
It doesn’t just change how you think.
It changes how you move through the world.Yes, some of what we’ll explore might challenge your rational mind.
But every insight? Comes with a practical pathway for real-world action.What to expect:
✅ Immediate tools you can start using—today—to reclaim your clarity, power, and truth
✅ Fierce accountability to keep you steady when the path gets uncomfortable
✅ Identity shifts that dissolve beliefs you didn’t even realize were limiting you
✅ Concrete practices to turn inner vision into lived experience
✅ Deep integration of Gene Keys wisdom and body-based knowing—so transformation doesn’t just stay in your headThis is where vision meets action.
Where your old story ends—and the embodied self begins.So if you’re looking for something that feels good but changes nothing—this ain’t it.
But if you’re ready to get gloriously uncomfortable and profoundly awakened?
Then yes, wild one—this is exactly what you’ve been sensing all along:
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Then you’re right where you’re meant to be.
Fear isn’t failure.
Fear is proof you’re standing at the threshold of something real.
It means you’re not numbing. You’re noticing.
And that trembling in your bones?
That’s your wild self recognizing the path home.The voice whispering “you’re not ready” isn’t truth—it’s the echo of a life built on other people’s expectations.
And it always gets loudest right before you leave it behind.Here’s what I know:
No woman ever feels fully prepared to burn down a life that once kept her safe.
But the ones who walk forward anyway?
They become women they barely recognize—in the most glorious way.So if you’re shaking at the trailhead:
Welcome.
This is exactly where every real reclamation begins.In this work, we transmute fear into power.
We turn “Who am I to want more?” into
“Who was I to settle for less?”The soul doesn’t choose the ready.
It readies the ones who choose.And if you feel something cracking open as you read this?
Consider that your invitation.
The expedition begins not when you conquer fear—
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Let’s speak truth about currency, shall we?
This isn’t just a purchase.
It’s an investment in the woman you know you’re meant to become.You’re not buying a few sessions.
You’re funding the expedition back to your wild, rooted, liberated self.Here’s what that looks like:
💸 One-on-One Sessions start at $100/hour
This is your passport into uncharted inner terrain—the beliefs, patterns, and possibilities waiting beneath the surface.🌀 Flexible Payment Options
I call them “Reclaim Now, Navigate Later” plans—because access shouldn’t be gated by old systems of worth or wealth.🛡️ Radical Transparency
No hidden fees. No surprise costs. Just open dialogue and aligned commitment.And here’s the bigger truth:
I’m not here to deplete your resources.
I’m here to ensure you have what you need to remember who you are.So ask yourself:
What’s the real cost of staying in a life that feels like borrowed skin—tight, itchy, and never quite yours?
Because this work?
It’s not about affording me.
It’s about investing in the woman who’s been waiting at the edges of your becoming.If you’re committed to your liberation—we’ll chart a path that works.
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You’re right.
It is a dumpster fire out there.
And I’ve stood where you are—burned, bored, and furious at the sea of cookie-cutter “experts” selling instant awakenings and recycled fluff.I’ve been promised transformation that turned out to be little more than motivational wallpaper.
But instead of walking away, I chose to build something real. Something that actually delivers liberation—not just inspiration.
Here’s what sets my work apart:
🧭 My No-Bullshit Transformation Manifesto
This isn’t a marketing blurb.
It’s the foundation of how I operate—and the compass I use to stay rooted in integrity while guiding you toward your becoming.🤝 The Client Trust Agreement (aka Badass Client Pact)
This is our sacred contract.
It spells out exactly what you can expect from me—and what I’ll expect from you.
No spiritual bypassing. No smoke and mirrors. Just crystal-clear, mutual accountability.Together, these aren’t just documents. They’re boundaries—protecting you from the noise, and protecting this space as something truly sacred.
So no, I’m not your guru.
I’m your expedition partner.
And I’m just as invested in your reclamation as you are.If you’re looking for someone to keep you comfortable, I’m not it.
But if you’re ready to burn down the cages and meet the woman beneath the performance?
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Absolutely.
“Meh” is just dormant rebellion waiting for permission to awaken.You don’t need to hit rock bottom to rise.
And you definitely don’t need to wait until your soul is screaming before you answer its whisper.That quiet dissatisfaction?
It’s your authentic self sending up flares from beneath the layers of compromise and coping.In fact, some of the most profound transformations I’ve witnessed didn’t begin in crisis.
They began with a woman who paused and said, “There has to be more than this.”So if you’re feeling off… numb… fine-but-not-fulfilled—
Let’s excavate that.
Let’s find what your “meh” has been protecting.
And let’s uncover the wild aliveness waiting underneath it all.Because this expedition?
It doesn’t require breakdown.
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This isn’t your standard “find your purpose” life coaching.
A midlife transformation with me is more like an expedition—into unclaimed, forgotten, or long-abandoned parts of yourself.
Here’s what sets it apart:
🧱 We go deeper than symptom-solving.
This isn’t about fixing what’s visible—it’s about excavating the roots.
Together, we’ll unearth what’s really driving your discomfort, your numbness, or your not-quite-life.
What seems like an obstacle? Often, it’s actually the entry point to the most powerful terrain you’ve yet to explore.🗺️ I bring radical perspective.
You won’t find passive listening or polite nodding here.
I challenge the maps you’ve been handed—the ones shaped by perfectionism, people-pleasing, patriarchy, and performative living.
We’ll chart something real. Something yours.🧭 You leave with your own compass.
I’m not here to create dependency.
This isn’t a forever coaching loop—it’s an empowerment container.
You’ll leave equipped with the tools, practices, and clarity to keep navigating long after our work ends.🔥 Liberation, not temporary relief.
You won’t find sugar-coated truths here.
You will find transformation.
And once you cross this threshold, the life that once felt “fine” will feel impossibly small.This isn’t about making small talk with your inner critic.
It’s about becoming a woman your past self could barely imagine—
one who moves through the world with clarity, boundaries, and unapologetic power.So ask yourself:
Are you ready for a transformation that doesn’t just change your habits—
but alters your relationship to truth, power, and possibility?If yes—then let’s begin.
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First of all—welcome to the expedition.
That freak-out? That holy sh*t moment*?
It’s not a sign something’s wrong.
It’s proof you’ve stepped into real change.This isn’t a gentle stroll through “positive thinking.”
It’s a wild reclamation.
And yes—at times it will feel disorienting, intense, and deeply unfamiliar.But here’s the truth:
I’ve walked this path.
I know where the roots are.
I’ve built this container to hold your resistance without shame.Those moments when you want to run?
They’re not detours.
They’re thresholds.
And they almost always point to the most buried, powerful pieces of yourself—waiting to be reclaimed.So if you hit panic, pause, or pushback—I won’t abandon you there.
I’ll help you meet that edge with grace and grit.Because no woman ever reclaimed her full sovereignty without first facing the guardians of her comfort zone.
And your fear?
It’s not failure.
It’s the front door to your freedom. -
Midlife isn’t a number.
It’s a state of awareness.
A sacred threshold where you realize: “This version of my life doesn’t quite fit anymore—and I’m ready for more.”If you’ve lived long enough to recognize patterns that no longer serve you…
If you feel the pull to reclaim parts of yourself you abandoned to survive…
If you’re done performing and craving something real…Then yes—you’re already in the midlife terrain I work within.
Whether you’re in your late 30s or your early 60s, age is not the marker.
Readiness is.This work isn’t for a specific demographic.
It’s for any woman who’s ready to cross the threshold from self-denial to self-devotion.So ask yourself:
Are you ready to meet the version of you that’s been waiting just beneath the surface?If so—you’re right on time.
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This is sacred.
And non-negotiable.Your privacy is protected like sacred ground.
Everything we explore inside this work remains sealed within the container we co-create.
No leaks. No storytelling. No spiritual exhibitionism disguised as “authenticity.”I don’t share your breakthroughs.
I don’t use your pain as content.
And I absolutely never treat your story as something to spotlight for my own gain.Our sessions are a sanctuary.
What unfolds there is held with the fierce protection of someone who understands that safety isn’t optional—it’s essential.So when you enter this work, you can bring your full self: raw, real, unfiltered.
And know this—I’m holding your truth like the powerful, private map that it is. -
Here’s the unvarnished truth:
I don’t offer refunds. I offer results.
Not manufactured ones—real ones, born from deep presence and radical commitment.If you show up fully—if you engage with the work, stay with the discomfort, and honor your own becoming—transformation isn’t a gamble.
It’s a given.That said, I don’t guide reluctant travelers.
If after our first two sessions you know this isn’t your path, we’ll dissolve the alliance with mutual respect.
No shame. No pressure. Just truth.But let me be clear:
Discomfort isn’t failure.
Discomfort is often the sign you’re standing at the threshold of real change.The question isn’t whether this work transforms.
It’s whether you’re ready to navigate the territory that leads to your own liberation.If the answer is yes—then so is the result.
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Let’s be clear:
I am not a therapist, counselor, social worker, or psychologist.
I don’t pretend to be one.
I don’t blur those lines.
And I will never venture beyond the scope of my expertise.Here’s the core distinction:
🧠 Therapy is designed to explore your past, address clinical issues, and support mental health diagnosis and treatment.
It’s often reflective, diagnostic, and trauma-focused.🌀 My work is designed to guide you forward.
We focus on reclaiming your truth, reshaping your beliefs, and activating what’s possible—not just analyzing what’s already happened.This isn’t “why am I stuck?”
It’s: “How do I get free?”I work with women who are ready to take action—to rewrite the story, reclaim their power, and create meaningful, embodied change.
That said—this boundary is non-negotiable:
🛑 If our work uncovers something requiring clinical support, we pause. Immediately.
No ego. No hesitation.
I will always refer you to a licensed professional, because your wellbeing always comes first.So if you’re looking to heal trauma, treat clinical conditions, or process crisis, I’m not your guide.
But if you’re ready to move forward—fiercely, honestly, and with a companion who will hold your truth like sacred fire—
then the expedition begins here.I’m not your therapist.
I’m your guide.
Your mirror.
Your ally in transformation.
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Not everyone will cheer when you begin reclaiming parts of yourself they’ve grown comfortable watching you abandon.
Transformation disrupts patterns.
For you—and for the people who’ve mapped their lives around your compliance, care, or silence.But here’s what matters most:
This journey belongs to you.
Your liberation doesn’t require a permission slip.During our work together, we’ll explore ways to communicate your evolution with clarity, compassion, and strength.
You’ll learn how to set boundaries that honor your truth without burning bridges—unless they need to burn.We’ll anchor your growth in self-trust, so that when resistance shows up (and it might), it doesn’t derail you.
Because here’s the deeper truth:
When you reclaim your authentic self, you become a living permission slip—
a quiet revolution in motion.Your courage creates ripples.
Your clarity becomes a lighthouse.
And your transformation doesn’t just liberate you—it signals what’s possible for everyone around you.The greatest gift you can offer your loved ones isn’t self-sacrifice.
It’s showing them what becomes possible when a woman lives from her center. -
Absolutely.
Your skepticism?
It’s not a problem—it’s a compass.
It means you're awake, discerning, and done with fluffy solutions that don't land.I don’t host crystal circles or ask you to chant affirmations until the universe rearranges itself.
(Unless that genuinely lights you up—in which case, go for it.)My work is rooted in practical tools, deep inquiry, and real transformation.
Think less “visualize your highest self” and more “excavate your truth and claim it like hell.”Even the Gene Keys—one of the more mystical pieces of the work—are applied here with refreshing practicality.
We use them not for cosmic identity inflation, but for clear insight, pattern interruption, and grounded change.If you’re allergic to spiritual bypass, but hungry for something substantial and real—
you’re in the right place.Your grounded lens won’t slow us down.
It’ll speed up the reclamation.
Because this isn’t about becoming someone new.
It’s about finally becoming yourself. -
Absolutely.
You wouldn’t embark on an expedition without consulting the map—
and I wouldn’t ask you to.That’s why I offer a complimentary, no-obligation 15-minute exploration call.
Here’s the terrain:
🗣️ You speak. I listen.
This is your space to share what’s stirring, name what’s not working, and explore what’s possible. Bring your hesitations. I’ll bring presence.🛑 No persuasion. No pressure.
This isn’t a sales pitch. It’s a conversation. Together we’ll determine if this alliance feels like a fit for genuine transformation.⏱️ Fifteen minutes, exactly.
I honor your time. I won’t extend, upsell, or trap you in a loop of “just one more question…”💸 Completely free.
This isn’t about transaction. It’s about connection—and discernment.🚪 No strings.
If our paths aren’t aligned, we part with mutual respect.
No guilt. No weirdness. Just clarity.Consider it a short reconnaissance mission—your first step toward reclaiming the life you’ve sensed was waiting for you.
You’ll experience my direct, grounded approach.
I’ll gain insight into what you’re holding and what’s calling to be reclaimed.So:
Are you willing to invest fifteen minutes that could alter your entire trajectory?Because this isn’t just a call.
It might just be your first step home. -
Ah, my beautifully skeptical explorer.
Let’s illuminate the path I’ve walked to earn the right to guide yours.I don’t deal in wishful thinking.
And I don’t self-appoint titles.
I’ve done the work—on myself and with hundreds of women.
Here’s what makes this approach different:🩺 Medical Foundation
I began my career as a nurse, working on the frontlines of healthcare.
That’s where I first witnessed how deeply the mind-body connection impacts our lived reality. I learned what real suffering looks like—and how inner change translates into physical life shifts.🧠 Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) & Hypnosis
Trained by one of the field’s most respected teachers, I’ve mastered the language patterns and rewiring tools that help reprogram the stories that keep women stuck.🎓 Life Coaching + Integrative Change Work
Formally certified as a coach, then evolved beyond traditional models to develop a grounded, trauma-aware, liberatory practice. I’m certified through the Ethical Coaching Collective, and hold active membership in both the International Association of Counselors and Therapists and the ICBCH (International Certification Board of Coaches and Hypnotists).🧬 Gene Keys Guide
I’m a formally trained Gene Keys Guide, educated directly by the creators and facilitators of this body of work.
When we explore your DNA’s potential, it’s not fluff—it’s mapped, precise, and personalized.The real difference?
I bring both science and soul.
Clinical discernment and intuitive depth.
And everything I’ve learned, studied, embodied, and practiced exists for your liberation—not to stroke my ego.You deserve a guide who understands the physiological and psychological terrain of transformation.
So if you’re still wondering whether I’m just another guru?
That’s a great question.Now ask yourself this one:
What if the only thing left to do… is begin?
No Answer Yet?
Still holding onto a lingering doubt, you magnificent skeptic?
I respect your discernment.
If your question wasn’t answered in this expedition guide, know this:
I don’t leave fellow explorers stranded without a map.
Here’s your next navigation point:
Send a direct message to questions@nicolehate.com.
Place your most pressing inquiry in the subject line. Make it unmistakable!
Expect a reply within 24-48 hours, Monday through Friday.
During weekends and holidays, I might be traversing my own untamed territories, so responses may require additional time. But I commit to reaching you.
Because here’s the thing:
Genuine curiosity deserves honest exploration.
And the only misguided question is, “Should I keep dimming my light?”
If you’re still uncertain… questioning… feeling like one answer could unlock everything—send it.
Your question might be the very thing that’s kept you circling the edge of your own becoming.
Release it.
Let it breathe.
Let’s navigate it together.
And know this:
Taking the step to ask—even when unsure—is part of the reclamation.
our future self, the one living with untamed authenticity and unapologetic power, will thank you for it.
OR take the bold step to Book a 15 Minute Call!