GOT QUESTIONS?FAQ’s
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I help high-functioning women unravel the identities they built to survive, and remember who they actually are.
It’s part nervous system, part shadow work, part deep clarity.
There’s no template. No script. Just presence, pattern-breaking, and the kind of honesty most people avoid. -
It’s not therapy. And it’s not your average “coach in a kaftan” either.
This is identity alchemy live, in real time.
If you’re looking for someone to validate your excuses or sugarcoat your spiral, you’ll hate it here. -
Yes but not in the way you’re used to.
I am a living embodiment experiment of both though formally trained as a Gene Keys Guide.
But I won’t read your chart like a horoscope. I’ll drag it like it owes you an apology and help you stop outsourcing your clarity to it. -
You bring your chart and yourself. I bring the scissors.
We cut through the chaos and name what’s actually going on underneath.
No prep needed. No performance required.
You’ll leave with clarity you didn’t know you were circling. -
Yes, for the 6-month container.
Not for books or single sessions.
If you need access support, check the scholarship fund (coming soon) that’s what it’s there for. -
Yes but not in the Instagram-licensed sense.
I work with deep presence, boundaries, and lived experience.
I don’t coddle, but I don’t abandon. If something’s outside my scope, I’ll tell you. -
Women who are secretly exhausted by the performance of having it all together.
They’re smart, self-aware, emotionally intelligent, and done pretending they’re fine.
They don’t want hand-holding. They want a mirror and a match. -
That’s literally the point.
If you were already clear, you wouldn’t be here. -
This isn’t your standard “find your purpose” life coaching.
A midlife transformation with me is more like an expedition—into unclaimed, forgotten, or long-abandoned parts of yourself.
Here’s what sets it apart:
🧱 We go deeper than symptom-solving.
This isn’t about fixing what’s visible—it’s about excavating the roots.
Together, we’ll unearth what’s really driving your discomfort, your numbness, or your not-quite-life.
What seems like an obstacle? Often, it’s actually the entry point to the most powerful terrain you’ve yet to explore.🗺️ I bring radical perspective.
You won’t find passive listening or polite nodding here.
I challenge the maps you’ve been handed—the ones shaped by perfectionism, people-pleasing, patriarchy, and performative living.
We’ll chart something real. Something yours.🧭 You leave with your own compass.
I’m not here to create dependency.
This isn’t a forever coaching loop—it’s an empowerment container.
You’ll leave equipped with the tools, practices, and clarity to keep navigating long after our work ends.🔥 Liberation, not temporary relief.
You won’t find sugar-coated truths here.
You will find transformation.
And once you cross this threshold, the life that once felt “fine” will feel impossibly small.This isn’t about making small talk with your inner critic.
It’s about becoming a woman your past self could barely imagine—
one who moves through the world with clarity, boundaries, and unapologetic power.So ask yourself:
Are you ready for a transformation that doesn’t just change your habits—
but alters your relationship to truth, power, and possibility?If yes—then let’s begin.
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First of all—welcome to the expedition.
That freak-out? That holy sh*t moment*?
It’s not a sign something’s wrong.
It’s proof you’ve stepped into real change.This isn’t a gentle stroll through “positive thinking.”
It’s a wild reclamation.
And yes—at times it will feel disorienting, intense, and deeply unfamiliar.But here’s the truth:
I’ve walked this path.
I know where the roots are.
I’ve built this container to hold your resistance without shame.Those moments when you want to run?
They’re not detours.
They’re thresholds.
And they almost always point to the most buried, powerful pieces of yourself—waiting to be reclaimed.So if you hit panic, pause, or pushback—I won’t abandon you there.
I’ll help you meet that edge with grace and grit.Because no woman ever reclaimed her full sovereignty without first facing the guardians of her comfort zone.
And your fear?
It’s not failure.
It’s the front door to your freedom. -
Midlife isn’t a number.
It’s a state of awareness.
A sacred threshold where you realize: “This version of my life doesn’t quite fit anymore—and I’m ready for more.”If you’ve lived long enough to recognize patterns that no longer serve you…
If you feel the pull to reclaim parts of yourself you abandoned to survive…
If you’re done performing and craving something real…Then yes—you’re already in the midlife terrain I work within.
Whether you’re in your late 30s or your early 60s, age is not the marker.
Readiness is.This work isn’t for a specific demographic.
It’s for any woman who’s ready to cross the threshold from self-denial to self-devotion.So ask yourself:
Are you ready to meet the version of you that’s been waiting just beneath the surface?If so—you’re right on time.
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Perfect. Now let’s go where they wouldn’t.
This work lives beneath the rebrand, beneath the mindset work, beneath the vision board.
You’re not starting over. You’re going deeper. -
Good. That means your system knows something’s about to shift.
We don’t override fear here. We listen to it, work with it, and move anyway. -
Here’s the unvarnished truth:
I don’t offer refunds. I offer results.
Not manufactured ones butreal ones, born from deep presence and radical commitment.If you show up fully, if you engage with the work, stay with the discomfort, and honor your own becoming—transformation isn’t a gamble.
It’s a given.That said, I don’t guide reluctant travelers.
If after our first two sessions you know this isn’t your path, we’ll dissolve the alliance with mutual respect.
No shame. No pressure. Just truth.But let me be clear:
Discomfort isn’t failure.
Discomfort is often the sign you’re standing at the threshold of real change.The question isn’t whether this work transforms.
It’s whether you’re ready to navigate the territory that leads to your own liberation.If the answer is yes, then so is the result.
No Answer Yet? let’s navigate that.
Still circling a lingering doubt, you magnificent skeptic?
Good. That means your discernment is alive and well. I respect that.
If your question wasn’t answered in this expedition guide, know this:
I don’t leave fellow explorers stranded without a map.
Here’s your next move:
📩 Email me directly at questions@nicolehate.com
💬 Subject line: Your most pressing inquiry — make it unmistakable.
⏱️ Response time: Within 24–48 hours, Monday through Friday.
(Weekends? I may be traversing my own wild terrain, but I’ll respond as soon as I return.)
Because here’s the thing:
🧭 Genuine curiosity is sacred.
And the only “wrong” question is the one you silence.
If you’re still unsure...
Still circling your own becoming...
Still wondering if one answer could shift everything —
Ask it.
Release it.
Let it breathe.
Let’s navigate it together.
And if your body’s already saying yes?
Take the bolder step:
Book a 15 Minute Call
No pitch. No pressure. Just potent clarity.
Your future self, the one living untamed, unapologetic, and fully alive, will thank you for moving.