Episode 8 - You Don't Need Permission to Want What You Want (Stop Performing Your Desires Into Existence)
You know what you want. You've always known. The problem isn't clarity—it's that you've been performing your desires instead of living them.
If you're a high-achieving woman who calculates whether your wants are "safe" before you voice them, this episode is going to hit different. We're diving deep into Permission Fatigue™—that bone-deep exhaustion from asking everyone else if your desires are allowed to exist.
In this episode, you'll discover:
Why you go blank when someone asks what you want (hint: it's not because you don't know)
The difference between guilt and intuition (and why you've been confusing the two)
How your nervous system learned that your desires were dangerous—and how to interrupt that conditioning
The real reason you're addicted to being needed (and what it's costing your authentic self)
Why spiritual bypassing is just another performance for an imaginary enlightened audience
You'll also learn:
The Nervous System Check-In: A three-times-daily practice to reconnect with your body's wisdom
Micro-rebellions that train your nervous system to trust your wants
The language of non-negotiable boundaries (without the apologetic word salad)
Guilt Archaeology: How to trace your guilt back to whose voice is really speaking
The Desire Practice: Daily medicine for a nervous system that forgot pleasure is your birthright
Real client transformation: Hear how one woman stopped performing motivation and started trusting her body's intelligence—transforming her relationship with exercise from shame-based forcing to nervous system-informed movement.
This isn't another episode about self-care or manifestation. This is about recognizing that your inability to access your desires isn't a character flaw—it's nervous system conditioning. And conditioning can be interrupted.
Warning: If you're comfortable being the woman who wants nothing for herself, this episode will make you uncomfortable. Good. Discomfort means your conditioning is being challenged.
For the high-functioning woman who's tired of suffocating in a life that looks good but feels like a cage—who's ready to stop performing her way through existence and start living from her authentic desires—this is your permission slip to want what you want.
Not because someone gave you permission. Because you finally remembered you never needed it.
Chapters
00:00 Permission to Want: A Deep Dive
05:43 Unpacking Permission Fatigue
11:05 Reconnecting with Authentic Desires
14:41 Micro Rebellions: Small Steps to Big Changes
19:19 The Power of Desires: Sacred Information
25:48 Practicing Desire Without Apology
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