Episode 9 - Boundaries and the Word No: The Complete Sentence That Changes Everything
From Welcome Mat to Sacred Boundaries: The Full-Body Revolution of Teaching the World How to Treat You
In this comprehensive episode, Nicole Hate goes beyond the simple "just say no" advice to explore the full landscape of boundary work. She breaks down the different types of boundaries (physical, emotional, time, mental, energy, and digital), shares her personal journey from PTO exhaustion to boundary liberation, and reveals why your body's discomfort is actually your internal boundary detection system screaming for help. Learn why boundaries create real connection rather than destroying it, and get a practical blueprint for building boundaries that actually protect your life force. This isn't just about saying no. It's about the sacred architecture that keeps you whole.
Welcome to the full-body revolution of boundary setting. This isn't just about learning to say no—it's about building the sacred architecture that protects your entire life.
In this episode, Nicole exposes how we become 24/7 all-you-can-take buffets for everyone else's needs and why boundaries are as essential as skin itself.
You'll discover:
The 6 types of boundaries (and which ones you're probably bleeding through)
Why your tight chest and volcanic rage are actually boundary alarms
The difference between connection and extraction in relationships
How to recognize when boundaries are needed (your body knows)
The 5-step Boundary Building Blueprint
Why people who resist your boundaries needed them most
The truth: Boundaries create intimacy, not walls
The Boundary Inventory includes:
✓ Physical - Who touches you and how
✓ Emotional - What feelings belong to you vs others
✓ Time - Your hours aren't communal property
✓ Mental - Your thoughts don't need their approval
✓ Energy - Protecting your life force from vampires
✓ Digital - The radical act of being unreachable
Perfect for women who are exhausted from being everyone's emotional support animal, emergency contact, and unpaid therapist.
This Month's Challenge: Complete the Boundary Inventory, implement ONE boundary, and document what happens when you stop being everyone's all-access pass.
Warning: People comfortable with your lack of boundaries will be uncomfortable with your new ones. Good.
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DISCLAIMER: This podcast may cause sudden outbreaks of truth-telling, boundary-setting, and unapologetic self-expression. Side effects include losing people who preferred you silent.
