Who Are You Without the Performance?

A 6-week 1:1 coaching experience for midlife women ready to remember who they are underneath all the roles they've been performing.

You've Been Everyone's Everything for So Long, You Don't Know Who You Are Anymore

You've spent decades perfecting the performance:

• The accommodating partner who never makes waves

• The reliable daughter who always shows up

• The helpful friend who absorbs everyone's problems

• The easy employee who never rocks the boat

You've built your entire identity around being:

✗ The helper

✗ The fixer

✗ The peacekeeper

✗ The one everyone can count on

✗ The good girl who gets it right

And now? You're exhausted.

Not just tired—hollow. Like you've been performing for so long that there's nothing left underneath. Like you've spent so many years being what everyone needed that you have no idea who you actually are.

The scary questions keep coming:

"If I'm not the helpful one, who am I?" "If I stop caretaking, what's my value?" "If I'm not needed, will anyone want me around?" "Who was I before I learned to perform?" "Is there even a 'me' underneath all these roles?"

And here's what makes it worse:

You can't just "stop" performing without knowing who you are. You can't set boundaries if you don't know what you're protecting. You can't show up authentically when you're not sure who "authentic you" even is.

You're stuck between two terrors:

1. Keep performing and lose yourself completely

2. Stop performing and discover there's nothing there

But here's the truth you need to hear:

The woman underneath the performance isn't gone. She's buried. And she's waiting to be reclaimed.

What If You Could Rediscover Who You Are—And Build a Life Around Her?

RECLAIM: A 6-week 1:1 coaching journey designed specifically for midlife women who are ready to:

✓ Separate their authentic identity from the roles they've been performing

✓ Discover (or rediscover) who they are underneath decades of conditioning

✓ Build confidence in their reclaimed self, even when others resist

✓ Create relationships and a life that honors who they actually are

✓ Navigate the world from authentic identity instead of performance

This isn't about:

• Adding more self-improvement tasks to your to-do list

• Becoming a "better" version of the performed self

• Learning to perform more effectively

• Fixing what's "wrong" with you

This is about:

• Excavating who you were before you learned to be "good"

• Releasing the identity built on roles that were never yours

• Remembering your desires, values, boundaries, and voice

• Embodying your authentic self in real life, real relationships, real time

PHASE 1: RECOGNIZE (Weeks 1-2)

Identify Your Performance Identity

What We Do:

• Map exactly who you've been pretending to be (the roles, the patterns, the conditioning)

• Identify the "good girl" programming that created your performed identity

• Understand when you're operating from role vs. authentic self

• Recognize the cost of the performance identity (energy, relationships, life choices)

• Begin to separate conditioning from character

What You'll Gain:

✓ Clarity about which parts of you are performance vs. authentic

✓ Understanding of how your identity was shaped by others' needs

✓ Awareness of the specific moments you abandon yourself

✓ Language to describe your experience

✓ Permission to question who you've been told to be

Tools & Practices:

• Identity mapping exercises

• Pattern recognition practices

• Journaling prompts for self-discovery

PHASE 2: RELEASE (Weeks 3-4)

Dismantle the False Self

What We Do:

• Work directly with your nervous system to release fear, guilt, and shame

• Use hypnosis to transform beliefs that keep you performing

• Create somatic practices for releasing the caretaker/helper identity

• Process grief about leaving behind roles that gave you purpose

• Make peace with becoming "unknown" to people who only knew the performed version

What You'll Gain:

✓ Freedom from the guilt that keeps you trapped in performance

✓ Nervous system regulation when identity confusion arises

✓ Capacity to sit with the discomfort of "not knowing"

✓ Release from the need to be needed

✓ Space for your authentic identity to emerge

Tools & Practices:

• Custom hypnosis recordings for identity release

• Somatic practices for embodied transformation

• Belief transformation exercises

• Nervous system regulation techniques

• Grief rituals for releasing old identities

PHASE 3: RECLAIM (Weeks 5-6)

Embody Your Authentic Identity

What We Do:

• Discover (or rediscover) who you actually are—desires, values, boundaries, voice

• Practice bringing your reclaimed self into real relationships and situations

• Build capacity to hold your authentic identity when others push back

• Create a sustainable way of living from your true self

• Develop a roadmap for continuing this work beyond our 6 weeks

What You'll Gain:

✓ Clarity about your authentic desires and values

✓ Boundaries that feel real and sustainable (not just "should" boundaries)

✓ Your own voice—opinions, preferences, needs

✓ Confidence in being yourself, even when it disappoints others

✓ A life that reflects who you actually are

Tools & Practices:

• Authentic identity embodiment exercises

• Real-time practice in actual relationships with coaching support

• Future Self integration work

• Boundary-setting frameworks

• Sustainable living practices from your reclaimed identity

Everything You Need to Reclaim Your Identity

The Components:

🎯 6 Private 60-Minute Coaching Sessions Deep, focused work on your specific identity patterns, delivered online. These aren't generic coaching calls, every session is tailored to where you are in your reclamation journey.

💬Telegram Access Between Sessions Real-time support when identity confusion, guilt, or fear shows up. You don't have to wait for the next session when you're navigating a difficult moment or breakthrough.

📊 Identity Mapping Exercises Visual and written exercises to help you see clearly who you've been performing as vs. who you actually are. You'll create a map of your authentic identity that you can reference throughout the journey.

🗺️ Personalized Roadmap A customized plan for living from your reclaimed identity beyond our 6 weeks together. You'll know exactly how to continue this work and navigate future identity challenges.

INVESTMENT: $1,497

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